Being a bridesmaid is not only a fun venture with friends, but an honor. You were chosen to support and stand by the bride on the most important day of her life! Bridesmaids are the voice of reason, comic relief in times of stress, and a shoulder to lean on at any given moment. Besides the difference in dress color, venue, and wedding weekend logistics, the duties of a bridesmaid have been the same for decades.
The history of being a bridesmaid goes back thousands of years and there are countless traditions and customs for every culture. In ancient Rome, bridesmaids and groomsmen were to dress exactly like the bride and groom. This was out of superstition. The bridal party dressed the same to confuse any vengeful spirits that may try and harm the newly weds. Another ancient Roman belief was that if a bridesmaid stumbled while walking down the aisle, she would never wed! Ancient Roman bridesmaids took their walking very seriously. In some cultures, the matron of honor was thought of as a highly-esteemed role model for the bride. She would actually join the bride and groom’s hands at the altar. In some cases when the bride had no family ties, her bridesmaids would shower her with presents and what they gifted her became her dowry.
Being a bridesmaid will bring you joy along with some responsibility. As Atlanta wedding designers, we know a loving, supportive bridesmaid when we see one! Check out our tips below for how to achieve ultimate bridesmaid greatness.
The first step to being a great bridesmaid is simply being there. Make time for the activities that will be just as important, or were important, to you during the months leading up to your wedding day. We know life can get hectic, but it’s important to carve out time for those special events. I don’t know if you’ve heard, but the wedding planning process can be overwhelming at times, which is where we come in. But, sometimes all the bride needs to ease her stress is to see your smiling, familiar face.
Show up for wedding dress shopping, the bridal shower, of course the bachelorette weekend, and anything else in between. If you live out of town, we understand attending every event isn’t always possible, but be there in spirit. Call her on the day of and let her know you wish you could be there, or schedule a Facetime chat. It can mean more to her than you may think.
I know this may seem harsh, but it’s the truth. After all, we’re Atlanta wedding designers and always have the bride’s best interest in mind. Sometimes it’s our duty to run interference with friends or family that try and turn everything back on themselves. Don’t let yourself be one of those people. This is one of the most important events of a bride’s life and it is all about her. It’s her and her beau’s time to shine and you’ve been chosen to stand along side them, so it’s important you do so, with love and support. Now, we’re not saying you shouldn’t voice your opinion, after all she wouldn’t have chosen you if your opinion wasn’t important to her. However, always keep her feelings and best interest in mind when sharing your thoughts.
Seeing the Big Picture
It’s important that you stay focused on the big picture, especially when it’s hard for the bride to. The end goal of this is for your friend to be happily married and honeymooning! A bridesmaid’s role is to be a cheerleader and comforter through thick and thin, all while keeping the end result in mind. When family drama arises or things don’t go exactly as planned, remind her that love is the reason for this whole endeavor. If there is drama, remember to not get too caught up in it. Other bridesmaids may choose this route because letting the bride vent may seem therapeutic, but in most cases it only feeds the fire. Be the calm, steady presence in times like this and keep your eye on the prize!
As Atlanta wedding designers, we are totally team bridesmaid and hope these tips have helped shape your view on this ever-so important role you’re playing in your friend’s forever.
Written By: Rachel Hegner